Have you ever had a friend tell you she was going to withhold sex from her husband because he didn't do what she wanted him to do? I have and it made me cringe. Sex is not a weapon to get what we want.
We are not children. When we want something we ask for it, and we don't always get what we want. That is where there is room for compromise - not arms across the chest pouting to get our way.
Consider the government shutdown in the US. One side wants something the other won't give it up. That is a reason to learn the art of compromise. Because just like that above marriage, they are doomed to failure if they can't work it out.
I'm all for having principals and believing strongly about one issue or another, but what I care more about is finding solutions to problems. We don't always get to win. Not in marriage, work or life, but we can work towards common solutions. There is satisfaction in that, in fact that act alone feels good. To know you were on the side of working together instead of withholding something.
I was telling my husband the other day that the only good thing about the stock market, in my mind, is the fact that there are stock holders that hold corporate leaders accountable. Granted, it is usually just to get a profit, but still, if a CEO went off the deep end and decided to shut down production because he couldn't get his way, I assume he would be fired. Business doesn't work very well with out some sort of compromise - and the stockholders create accountability.
Aren't the voters the stockholders in the US government?
So, in sex, politics, work and life we have to find ways to build bridges. Wouldn't it be a better world if everyone got that message?